Planning a wedding is always a stressful affair. Accommodating for family members, planning food, and finding a venue can be an exhausting task to say the least.
Surely, the last thing you want to be dealing with is accommodating crazy requests from every last person attending your special day…
Here we take a look at the most obnoxious requests people received from a guest attending their wedding.
When my cousin and her husband were planning on getting married they wanted a small wedding. Something like 40 to 50 people. Both her mother and future mother in-law weren’t having that and took it upon themselves to invite everyone and anyone they could.
The guest list quickly shot up to around 700 people. They ended up changing the venue to somewhere way out of state to cut down the guest list and have the smallish wedding they wanted.
DedicatedPornProfileAt my sister’s wedding reception our cousin asked her and my new brother in-law if she could stop the music and dancing while she sang a song she had written about their wedding.
My sister was annoyed but agreed because wow she wrote this song just for them.
So we all stop dancing and stand around awkwardly while she sings this long long loooooong song that doesn’t really make sense but has to do with love or whatever.
A few weeks later my sister finds out through Facebook that this cousin sang the exact same song at multiple other weddings.
The nerve. Stopping weddings dead in their tracks to be the focus of attention by lying that the song you’re singing was written just for them.
We all got a good laugh out of that.
My brother’s wife asked me to postpone the wedding “a year or two” because she was going to try to get pregnant the following year. She also insisted the wedding cake be vegan for religious reasons . I was fine with providing a vegetarian meal option for the few guests I knew would want it. But the cake? No. That’s your religion, not mine. She ended up not coming anyways. I’m fine with that.
1StoolSoftnerAtaTimeWe were engaged for six months and wanted our guests to have the maximum amount of time to have our wedding date on their calendar. So we used online invitations only. My aunt, who I have met 2-3 times, emailed me to inform me that she would not be attending because it must not be that important if we couldn’t bother to send a “real” invitation. I responded, “OK.”
murder_kittyA couple showed up at the reception too late for the dinner, it was already over, so they went into the restaurant of the hotel and charged their meals to the wedding party.
picksandchoosesMy wife’s parents refused to pay for anything if we didn’t hold our wedding at their church. We said fine, we would pay for it ourselves.
They then tried to dictate that we could not serve alcohol or have dancing at the reception. Which they weren’t paying for. We told them they didn’t have to attend if it was a problem for them.
dameon5My grandmas (both of them) left the room when we did our toasts because we used actual champagne. We offered the non-alcoholic sparkling juice stuff for them, but that was not acceptable because it LOOKED like alcohol. They were so offended that we were drinking they refused to participate and returned once the toasts were done.
PhatedGamingNot on the day of the wedding but my “monster-in-law” requested that my wife’s entire family boycott our wedding.
When my wife told her mother that we were getting married her response was “why are you doing this to me?” and then told my wife that she wouldn’t go and that she would convince her whole family to boycott the wedding.
This devastated my wife, she told my stepmom who took her out to find a wedding dress that day and she offered my parents backyard for the ceremony and reception.
Well, after my “monster-in-law” found out that my stepmom took my wife dress shopping she freaked out because that was supposed to be something she and her daughter did together (on her mind). She then confronted my wife, and my wife was like, “why do you care, you’re not even going?” At that point, the monster-in-law realized it was gonna happen without her and she changed her tune and got on board pretty quick.
moghedieneIt was the handful of guests who couldn’t be bothered to retain the address and directions that were provided to them several times via US mail, email, and internet link. And, who finally, when all that failed, needed to text me repeatedly to get clarifications on the directions instead of just using Google.
You know how busy a person is on their wedding day? I had more important things to do than answer texts about which exit to take.
CheapskateJerryMy husband and I changed our relationship status on Facebook to married while on our honeymoon. An aunt on his mom’s side commented “Wow…” and called his mother demanding to know why she wasn’t invited. My husband and I have been together for 6 years and I’ve never met the woman- of course we didn’t invite her or her flock of kids and grandkids.
Not to mention, my parents (who paid for the wedding) just built us a house on their farm that was completed 2 weeks prior. We didn’t want to abuse my parents kindness with too many guests. His aunt has gone on to tell the entire family how mean and rude we are.
I had a small wedding and our budget included putting all 16 attendees (ourselves included) up in the bed & breakfast that we held our ceremony/dinner in. The day of the wedding, my mother tried to pressure my husband and I into switching from the honeymoon suite into the room she and my father were in with my kid sister (small bed, crowded, and a creepy mini bed in the closet for my kid sister).
Unless I misunderstood her, we would have also had to share the room with my kid sister on our wedding night (because of the spare bed being in that room). She ONLY asked because she thought that the whirlpool bath in our room would be nice for her back. I told her no, that we had specific plans for the bath tub that night, and she dropped it.
Her dad’s side of the family wanted us to pay for all their hotels and airfare (would have been about 20k, all said and done). When we refused, they said we weren’t “being inclusive to the part of the family that had to travel” and would not be attending.
Yeah, they’re 16 hours away. But my family is about 20 hours away and they had no problem arranging their own transportation.
My sister-in-law showed up the night before the wedding and tried to redecorate. She said the decorations were trashy and that she didn’t like the caterers or the location. She actually tried to convince my wife and I to fake a break up so that she could re-plan the entire wedding.
I eventually had to throw her out of the wedding party and my wife asked her not to come to the wedding. To this day it’s still a source of contention between myself and my in-laws.
The wife is on my side though, so I’ve got that going for me.
Everyone was cool for the most part. However, we invited my friend/old roommate and his girlfriend. But between the time invitations went out and the wedding they had broken up. She asked us if she could bring the new guy as her plus one, and we had to tell her that she was actually the plus one originally, and had to basically un-invite her. If she didnt say anything, she would have remained invited due to mindlessness on it.
At first we felt bad, but we quickly got over it. She didnt really know anyone else at the wedding so she would have either try to hang around us, which wouldnt have worked with the 1000 ways we were getting pulled, or with her ex. It was a situation begging for drama, so we nipped it in the bud.
We’re from different countries, so we had one wedding near all her family with a small group of my close family/friends flown in, and then the same near my family with some of her family/friends flown in. The night before the wedding in her country, her family had a small party at the house they were sharing for the event. I was expected to be there, but my family and friends were explicitly not invited and told not to come. They had flown halfway around the world for this and were expected to spend the night before the wedding just hanging out at their hotel.
At the wedding near my family, I had about a half-dozen of my family members who either didn’t RSVP or RSVP-ed that they would not be coming, who then decided three days before the wedding that they would come after all. But instead of calling me directly so we could inform the venue, pay the extra money, and re-organize the seating, they just casually mentioned it in passing to my grandmother, who then casually mentioned it in passing to my mom the day before the goddamn wedding. So both of our families contain some inconsiderate jerks, I guess.
My mother-in-law tried to manipulate my wife into letting the mother-in-law’s boyfriend walk my wife down the aisle instead of her father.
My great aunt called my bride and asked her to come pick her up from the airport… four hours before the wedding.
Taxis are a thing, Aunt Pearl!
A few days before my wedding my husband’s aunt called us wanting to do individual family photos. I had a photographer I paid for that was working on my schedule and now she wanted to make arrangements with me to get individual family photos. I refused to entertain the idea of it and said I find it extremely rude she would call the bride with less than 5 days till the wedding and ask a huge favour and change in the wedding. Well then a bunch of people got involved. I told them all no and I won’t hear anymore of it. If you want family photos hire your own photographer.
Our culture dictates that we pay for our guests hotels. Not a big deal. Anyhoo, we had an uncle come in, check in, decide “nah”, and left for another hotel paid for by his son (who is pretty well off).
That meant that we had to pay for his hotel room even though he didn’t stay there. My wife was PO’d.
It’s all good. His son (my wife’s first cousin) is pretty cool and makes it up with gifts for our daughter.
While my Wife and I were taking pictures with guest and some were still getting their meal my grandmother cut our wedding cake and began serving it. We never even saw what it looked like.
My ex told me about when she finally did get married. Her big family all plainly said they would attend. Her passive-aggressive mother got all her siblings to come to their house so everyone could ride with them in their large suburban and make it a family trip together. My ex waited and waited and no sign from her family and no cell reception from any of her brothers and sisters.
The next morning her and her new husband are woken by her family expecting them to cook breakfast. They had lived only a few hours from Yellowstone Park, but decided on their daughter’s wedding day was a perfect day to finally go, and the next day just wake them up to make them cook.
We asked people to let us know if they had any allergies or religious dietary requirements. Some people came back to us with preferences of ingredients they didn’t like – a fact that became quite obvious after I had to clarify how serious the allergy was and if other related ingredients might cause an issue…
How pretentious can you be?
At my sisters wedding, my dad bought everyone at the wedding a round for each guest to cheers to during the speeches. Someone on my brother-in-laws side ordered himself an 80 bottle of wine.
My in laws refused to attend unless we got married in their midwestern state. My husband and I met and live on the east coast. We married in our city, giving his family 6+ months notice. They did not attend.
Some comments have been edited for clarity.