Have you ever been betrayed by someone you loved or admired? By a boss or a close friend? Has any of your relatives pulled the rug from under you and watched you fall into despair?
We all have. People can be awful at times. They don't have your best interest at heart and have no remorse if you fall flat on your face.
But then again, you realize and learn a lot about yourself. You change your ways and become a better person. And you never forget those who have
In this article, people share the most hurtful way someone
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The Most Stressful Roommate
“Not too terrible, but it sucked at the time: my college roommate took care of all the bills, so I just wrote him a check each month for my half, and he paid the rent, electricity, etc.
Then one day some of his friends from out of town visited for the weekend. I came home on Sunday night to find him half packed. He said he was going with them. This left me in the lurch since I didn’t have another roommate lined up or anything, and I can’t afford the place on my own. And I couldn’t stop him from leaving! I suppose I could insist that he pays for another month of rent or something, but it didn’t occur to me, so I said whatever, and started looking for another roommate the next day.
Then later that week, I got the first overdue notice. Then I got a call from the landlord. My ex-roommate hadn’t paid any bills in two to three months. He was taking my checks, cashing them, and using the money for himself.
Luckily I was able to get most everything straightened out, but it was stressful for a while, and I still resent him.”
The Jealous Girlfriend
“My at-the-time girlfriend’s mom offered me a job worth DOUBLE what I was making now, but she had to give me an interview to make it look ‘official’ for HR.
I applied, but ‘HR’ didn’t like that I already had a job, so she told me to quit and apply again. So I quit my job and applied again, went in for the interview and everything was great my application was processing, and I was going to get the job.
I didn’t get the job.
After we broke up, like two years later, she admitted she was jealous I didn’t have any debt, and she wanted me to lose my job so I’d be forced to get a loan so I could be in debt like her and see how it feels.”
Moving Back In With Her Mother Was A Terrible Idea
“I moved in with my mother and her crazy husband. Long story short, she told everyone we mutually know that I was addicted to illegal substances, dropped out of school, and was about to lose my job (none of this is true, or even close to being true).
I was living in her house with my 3-year-old daughter. She called my daughter’s dad and told him all of this. Then, she wrote a letter to Friend of the Court. I lost custody of my daughter because of this. I didn’t know any of it was coming, so I had no way to defend myself, and I didn’t have the money to hire a lawyer to fight it out.
Then she kicked me out of her house (not that I could even look at her after all of this happened). I am now homeless.”
Losing It All When Trying To Be Nice
“We’d been going out for six years, and she’d been hinting that something was up. She walked into my apartment one night, unannounced and wasted, and said she had to confess something to me. She had cheated on me. She cheated on me with a guy from her kid’s hockey organization. She cheated on me with a guy from her kid’s hockey organization, and he was engaged. She cheated on me with a guy from her kid’s hockey organization, and he was engaged, and she felt terrible about it. She was sorry. She couldn’t imagine what I am thinking. He wouldn’t talk to her, and he avoided her at the monthly hockey board meetings. She couldn’t believe what this said about her. He was only a few years older than her oldest son.
I said to her, ‘OK, here is your get out of jail free card. What other times have you cheated on me? Let’s get them all out now.’ Huge mistake on my part.
The rest of the times poured out.
About eight months later, out of the blue, she walked into my apartment and dumped me. In tears, she begged me to stay friends. Her quote ‘I can’t imagine you not in my life,’ touched me. And then the requests for money started. She had three kids I adored, and I wanted to be the nice guy.
Six weeks and $2,000 in money requests later, she emailed me that she was in a new relationship. I quickly terminated the friendship. One night, three years later, she posted on Facebook how wonderful her anniversary dinner was with the new guy. Unfortunately, if you compared the dates, her ‘anniversary’ predated when she dumped me by weeks.
I sent her a short email with a screen clip containing the email she sent me on the night she dumped me and a screen clip of her Facebook page (which also contained the date) and asked her if she could explain how the math didn’t line up with her explanation at the time. The lie she made up for the date difference? ‘That’s not our anniversary. It is much later, but we are both swamped.’ And the Facebook entry about her anniversary suddenly disappeared.
About eight years of my life and over $100,000 supporting her and her kids gone away.”
The Brother With Zero Remorse For His Own Family Member
“My brother is a contractor, and after offering to handle our whole home renovation, he started demolition, then decided he was too busy to finish and abandoned the project. He just didn’t show up for two weeks, and when I contacted him, he showed zero remorse for screwing me over. I had paid him almost $20,000 up front as a deposit for work to be completed. The renovations started in June.
Right now the master bedroom has no fixtures, there are no doors anywhere, the back wall of the second floor is missing (it’s October and getting cold!), the bathroom is gutted to the studs, the kitchen has missing walls, and there are massive holes in practically every remaining wall. Before just walking off, he’d just not show up for days at a time, or only work a couple of hours, then complain he was underpaid the rest of the time.
On top of that, due to him having poor credit, I let him use an extension of my credit card with his name on it to purchase materials, which he then proceeded to use to buy gas, food, and drinks for himself. When I asked him to stop, he agreed but continued to do so.
I’m now out $50,000 in labor and materials, and now I have to find another contractor.
Let me point out this important fact – this is my brother who has done this.”
The Worst Parenting Skills
“I lived with my father. My mother lied and said she had a steady job and a house so I was sent to live with her (because she had ruined my dad’s credit by running up huge debts in his name without his knowledge, causing our house to get foreclosed on). She lived in a van behind a mall. When all of my things arrived, she simply dumped them on the side of the road, and I never saw them again. I spent the next year living like a homeless person (10 years old). She threatened me with violence not to tell anyone. Finally, I did, and my dad came and got me, but that event screwed me up. I was a year behind in school, ill, and I lost all my stuff.”
Choosing Her Over His Own Child
“My parents got divorced. My dad kicked my mom out. I was still a senior in high school. I graduated and took a job to try and save up. He decided to get a new girlfriend to spite my mom. He then talked crap about my mom and let this new woman abuse me. This woman liked to mess with me by smacking a hammer on my bedroom wall early in the morning and snuck into my room while I was at work and stole things from me. I went to my dad begging and crying to help me. He called me crazy, told me to lock my doors every day in my own house and accused my sister of doing it. I caught her stealing from me on the last day of work. I told my dad.
He kicked me out the next day.
I haven’t talked to him in over two years, and I have nightmares about him. I made him pay me back over $1,300 that she stole from me or I’d sue her.”
This Terrible Relationship From The Start
“First relationship ever. I was 19, and he was 24. He was the most manipulative man in the world. He ‘lost’ his job shortly after we started dating. I later found out he didn’t even have a job. He ended up staying with me for a long time while he did nothing but sit on his butt and played video games all day while I worked two part-time jobs and went to college full time to support this grown man now living with me. He also managed to push everyone in my life away because there was only room for him in my life.
Not to mention the constant whining of how we ‘didn’t go on dates anymore,’ when obviously he wasn’t going to be the one paying for it, and I was broke because of him, but he’d say just enough to make me feel horrible. Also emotionally cheating on me with his video game ‘buddy,’ and how they had agreed to sleep together whenever they saw each other.
No Long Distance After Moving Her Stuff
“I had been dating a girl for around nine months. We were great together, no fights, no drama, just kept it chill and had the time of our life. She got a promotion two hours away from where we lived and needed to move. She was nervous about the distance, but I only had a year left in school, and I would join her.
Well, moving day came. She was busy working and had been living in the new spot for a week or two. I grabbed my dad’s truck and my band’s trailer, and with help from her parents, we got all of her stuff loaded up and made the journey. Once we got everything moved out and put into the new apartment, I gave her a call to see what she’d want to do for dinner and the evening in general. She essentially replied with ‘I can’t do the distance, sorry.’ I was stunned and to add insult to injury; her stepdad gave me about 30 bucks for gas after hauling all her stuff two hours away.”
Rejected From Top University Choices, Thanks To This Advisor
“In high school, my college advisor (who is supposed to be with you for all four years) went on maternity leave my junior year. I got stuck with her replacement, a first-time advisor who was the only one at my school without experience in a university admissions office. I did NOT get along with him, and I never really liked him. He proved my intuition right when the moment came to apply to college.
I applied early to Columbia, everything was normal, I figured I was a shoo-in (had a 3.8 GPA and a 2,290 SAT), and so I relaxed in my classes. My first quarter senior year, I had straight A’s. My overall first semester grades were straight C’s. Not a smart move, but I had applied early decision to my top choice and early action to my next two. I wasn’t worried.
Then I got deferred from all three. The reason? They never got all the materials they were supposed to: my advisor had forgotten to send in my SAT scores, as the advisors were supposed to do at my school. When I confronted him about this, it was unbelievable: he admitted to me, in private, that it was his fault. Then he called in my parents and a few other advisors and proceeded to lay all the blame on me. He had his story straight. Obviously, he thought it out beforehand. He was saving his job. And there wasn’t anything I could do about it.
My parents weren’t inclined to believe me since we didn’t have the best relationship at the time. And who are the other advisors going to trust if even my parents aren’t behind me?
I can still see his smug little face behind his desk. I’ve had awesome dreams about leaping over and beating the life out of him… but they’re just dreams. When I applied the second time around, all of my choices but one rejected me, seeing a straight-A student who dipped unceremoniously to low C’s his last year. I’m at NYU Gallatin now, and still bitter.”
Angry Bees In A Bathroom
“I work as a janitor part time for extra cash. I took last week off (first time) because my friend works for GameStop and got me a copy of a game. Well, I got called in saying if I don’t show up I’m fired. So I got to my office (random office building), and I was hollered at until I got to the bathrooms. Apparently, there’s a bunch of bees in one of the bathrooms. I walked in, and a guy in the stall was freaking out, and another guy managed to get a bunch of bees under the newspapers and started stomping on them. After three minutes, he killed maybe two bees, and there were around 40 angry bees. The other guys left, and I was stuck in this bathroom with 40 angry bees. I’m allergic to bees. I ran out, and my boss demanded I get back in there. So I marched back in. 40 minutes later I woke up in a hospital. I went into anaphylactic shock. I had several dozen bee stings throughout my body.”
This Is How You Develop Trust Issues
“I had two good friends from high school, Friend A, who stayed home and Friend B who went away with me to college. We had been in a band together, we lived down the block from each other, and we had been good friends for years. I wound up getting kicked out of school and losing most of the friends I had made there.
About two years later, I met this girl, and we were texting while she was away at school for the semester. She came home, and we started dating almost instantly. Friend A was jealous, and after some awkward tension, he wound up hooking up with her behind my back, but friend B told me, and I dropped him.
I gave her a second chance. Please for the love of God don’t make this mistake.
After another month of dating, she ended it with me. Then we found out she was pregnant.
A few days before we went to get this taken care of, I found out she slept with both friends A and B while she was pregnant.
After that, I lost most of my remaining friends, refusing to be around anyone who would be around those two guys. My problems with depression and social anxiety became more severe, and I spent the rest of my schooling making barely any friends.
Needless to say, I am friends with none of these people anymore. In fact, I have very few friends in general.”
An Incredibly Selfish Person
“My ex-girlfriend was living with me. We had a vacation planned to Playa del Carmen. Hurricane Dean hit two days before we were supposed to get there, so we had to cancel. Meanwhile, my dad suddenly had to go in for heart surgery. She pushed me to switch our vacation and go somewhere else instead of rescheduling for later in the year because, ‘we already had it planned,’ and it ‘might be hard to take another vacation once her semester starts.’
I had to buy new plane tickets to go to Cabo instead. I was worried about my dad the entire time. The day after we got home, she announced that she was moving out and because she met someone new (who she’d apparently been seeing for at least a month or two while living with me).
I asked, why didn’t you just tell me this last week when the hurricane hit and everything was canceled? I could have stayed here with my dad and not been out $4,000.
Her answer was, ‘You hadn’t had a vacation in a long time, and I wanted you to get to take one.’
Selfish. She’s apparently been married TWICE since then and that was only three years ago.
She also used the ticket credit for the canceled flight to Cozumel I had paid for to take a trip with her new boyfriend for New Years.
She also adopted a dog when she started dating me and left it, although the dog has made my life better.”
Things Always Do Get Better
“I was in love with this guy for years who claimed he couldn’t be with me long distance, so I had to watch him be with other people. He begged me to marry him the first time we met in person. After planning our marriage and trying for a child for over a year, I announced my pregnancy. He announced that he didn’t want to be together anymore. After going through pregnancy alone during college and still earning my degree, and going through court to prove paternity (he and his entire family pretended I didn’t exist until I did), he said he was sorry and wanted to get married. All I had to do was move halfway across the country and wait for him while he does a co-op in another part of the country. I thought I could live with this until he became physically and emotionally abusive.
I wish I could say I deserve better than this and leave, but I’m the one who fell into this trap by listening to promises I should’ve known weren’t real. Also, this is a vast improvement on how other people have been treating me my whole life, so I can’t say this is as bad as it could’ve been.
He’s a primary reason for where I am now, but I’m not pathetic. I have this cool game where I don’t talk to anybody for a few days and see how long it takes for a professor to ask me a question. I just have to try and not think about my husband living with other women in a different state. I try to think about our daughter and how much she needs me alive.
Things always get better, right?”
The Best Thing To Ever Happen To Him
“I spent close to 10 years working for a guy who I considered to be like family for less than minimum wage. I helped him build his business up into a thriving entity. He had promised I would get a raise and my own store to manage. I trusted him because I had known him since I was a child and he had never steered me wrong before. I did everything he said and each time I did something new that he asked for, reached a new goal, he said it wasn’t done right, and I would have to do it again.
I brought in a reasonable amount of his clients and kept them there, yet he said no when I said I needed more money to survive. I told him I was cutting my hours back because I had to get another job. He said I was selfish. When I took time off to spend with my family and girlfriend, he said I was neglecting my duties. He told me I needed to quit or start over with reduced pay and no title.
I quit. Soon after I left, some clients left as well. His wife (who ran the books) is now leaving him, and his other employees have left. Clients continue to leave on a regular basis.
That place was my life for a long time. It was my dream to have my own location. He promised it to me but screwed me over. I lost ten years of my life.
It was the best thing that ever happened to me, though.”
Don’t Mess Around With A Politics Student
“I was involved in student politics, and had found out that the executive had 1) been using credit cards unmonitored 2) got about seven free flights a year 3) generally just milked the union for cash. When I presented a very benign investigation into spending practices, it was turned around on me and ripped apart. The board took out any deadlines, and public requirements stacked it up with their friends instead of the finance committee and even angered the labor union that we have working for us. In two hours, they undid months of hard, investigatory work.
So I published one of their credit cards and got them to resign, not to mention being generally hated. Lesson: don’t mess around.”