A young woman has reached out to ask if she’s out of line for choosing a trip to Europe over caring for her boyfriend’s dying mom.
For the 25-year-old woman, the boyfriend’s mom has pushed her luck too far. From the sounds of it, the mother is an overbearing hypochondriac, finding any way she can to prevent her son from leaving her grasp. And, for some reason, the son and his girlfriend have been entertaining it.
Despite claiming she is dying, the mom of the 25-year-old woman’s boyfriend has never had a solid diagnosis. She keeps checking herself into the hospital and being turned away again. Despite having nothing wrong with her, she insists on being a constant burden to her son.
Now, the young woman plans to take a trip to Europe to see her family, and her boyfriend is calling her selfish for not helping with his ‘dying’ mom.
Dying Mom Is Faking It
Voicing her concerns, the original poster is clearly sick to death of the mom and her constant neediness. At one point, she asked to stay with them in their small flat. One night turned into a week, and she wasn’t a good house guest.
“She stayed one night at our one-bedroom apartment. That turned into a week of chaos. She refused AC and fans (said they hurt her skin) but blow-dried her hair daily. The apartment smelled awful, everything had to be dark and silent, and she constantly demanded help. She even stormed into our bedroom at 3 am, asking Liam for massages (we sleep naked, so that was awkward). She criticized our Buddhist souvenirs, insisted we hang a cross (I did), and complained non-stop.”
The two of them are full-time students with jobs to pay for their studies and lifestyles. The added burden of his endlessly dying mom is not something either of them needs. However, she won’t stop insisting she is ill to guilt-trip her son into caring. Both of their grades are slipping behind due to her clingy nature.
“There has never been a diagnosis, either. Her health updates were always shifting: MRI, canceled surgery, then chemo postponed due to infection, then E. coli. Always a new reason. No clear diagnosis or paperwork.” One nurse even turned her away, claiming she was faking it.
Despite the horrible, toxic relationship her boyfriend has with his mom, the woman still keeps him around. Now, she wants to go to Europe to see her family, whom she hasn’t seen for years. However, her boyfriend claims she is being selfish for leaving him to deal with his ‘dying’ mom.
I say leave him, go to Europe, and never see him or his mother ever again.