A Redditor asked users “What aspects of a woman’s life are most men unaware of?” Women quickly began sharing their thoughts and experiences on this topic.
Source can be found at the bottom of the article.
1/20. The overwhelming sensation of relief when removing a bra after a long day of wearing one.
2/20. Almost every woman panics over being pregnant if her period is late one month, even if she is a virgin or hasn’t been laid in years.
3/20. I’m of childbearing age but am not ready for kids yet. Many of my friends and coworkers are having kids. I’ve recently become paranoid about giving people the impression that I’m pregnant. Like, I feel more uncomfortable not drinking a glass of alcohol when I’m out. I feel like everyone is just watching me and waiting for me to be with child, especially my in laws. My husband is completely mystified by this. It’s a new realm of feeling scrutinized I hadn’t yet experienced.
4/20. The very act of bleeding while on your period is, in my opinion, one of the least unpleasant aspects of the entire ordeal. Try telling your male boss why you had to call off of work, because you’re doubled over in pain. Spilling over your favorite jeans. Being too tired to workout even though you want to. Being hornier than you thought possible but having your downstairs be an absolute axe murder scene. Ruining sheets and underwear.
5/20. Smiling more. No, I cannot smile all the time, just because you think so. Yes, I have a “resting b**** face”. No, it’s not a look of contempt. Resting is the keyword here. My face is taking a vacation.
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6/20. The sensation of thick blood moving inside you. Imagine thick snot going down the back of your nose and throat. Like that but downstairs. I find trying to keep a straight face when this is happening very difficult.
7/20. As a normal, feminine woman who is married with kids, it is constantly assumed that I am some hapless housewife who is just taken care of by my husband. Well f*** all of you, I’m the one doing all the research, doing the taxes, getting us into real estate investing, etc. My husband and I make almost exactly the same salary.
I was interested in purchasing a duplex in a neighborhood I don’t have much experience in, and asked a friend to talk to another girl she knows who owns property somewhere. They said, and I quote, “have her husband call my husband.”
Not have me call the husband, or even “them”, but specifically have my husband call hers. My husband, who doesn’t have a clue about this stuff and is probably playing Pokemon right now. Right, that’s definitely the best option. All my rage.
8/20. I’m gonna say the random piercing boob pain that must be breast cancer, but is over as quick as it starts.
9/20. Ten times worse when pregnant.
Sneezed? You peed.
Coughed? You peed.
Laughed too hard? You peed.
Once you get past that point of no return (anywhere after 20ish weeks), the paranoia sets in…Did I just pee? Have I started spotting? Is it just sweat? Did my waters just break?
Not every bathroom break is to go pee. Sometimes it’s a quick check of the undies to make sure everything is ok still.
10/20. When I’m asked to “Cover myself up” or “Put on long pants” because my UNCLE is walking into the room. Sometimes even my FATHER.
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11/20. When you’re on your period, and stand up after sitting for a long time, only to feel a massive gush of blood exit your vag. It’s very hard to maintain a nonchalant facial expression when internally you’re thinking “MOTHER OF GOD, PLEASE DON’T OVERFLOW BEFORE I CAN FIND A TOILET.
12/20. Uncontrollable tears.
Many men like to think that women cry simply to be manipulative and to be let off easier. Sure, some women might do this, but when I cry, I guarantee I’m trying my hardest not to. When I get very stressed or angry or overwhelmed, my reaction is to cry. And no matter how hard I try, I can’t stop it. And it sucks.
Edit: Many of you are saying that this isn’t just a women problem and men face this too. Yes, I believe you. I never said this applies to just women. It’s simply something I, as a woman, tend to be misunderstood about.
13/20. Knowing that if you ever have some sort of internal injury you’ll probably just assume its period pain, and just sit as home dying waiting for it to pass.
14/20. Well, after years of thinking I’m slowly dying of cancer, I finally went to a gynaecologist about it and she looked at me like I was crazy and told me that was normal during the menstrual cycle of a woman. I was so mad on my way home that I had had to go through all this inconvenience just because I’m a woman.
15/20. How frustrating it is to be told that you’re just paranoid for taking extra precautions to avoid being harassed, but also being told that it’s your fault for not taking extra precautions if you are harassed.
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16/20. I had a guy friend who constantly took women smiling at him as a hint that they were interested in him romantically. It never occurred to him that women might smile at him when they make eye contact just to be nice. Not everything has a hidden meaning!
17/20. The amount of time it takes to look presentable. I don’t even wear make up but my hair. Omg my hair. I need to blow dry it if I plan on leaving the house, otherwise it looks like s***. So don’t invite me to go somewhere 30 minutes after we worked out!
The vaginal discharge. Sometimes it feels like you peed yourself. And if it’s cold outside, it’s the worst feeling ever and the only thing you want is to find a restroom.
18/20. That it’s kind of hurtful when you only want to be friends because you’re interested in us/attracted to us. There’s this whole awful, isolating barrier if we’re already in a relationship. Or if, God forbid, we’re just not interested in you in that way.
It makes me feel like my only worth to males is how cute I am/how my qualities are conducive to your fantasies.
19/20. The struggle of when to casually mention you have a boyfriend…. Too early and you look conceited, too late and you’re a tease.
20/20. How much WORK goes into being a feminine woman who lives up to modern beauty standards. I consistently see men praising how beautiful Kim Kardashian looks “without makeup” when she’s straight up wearing 20+ products99% of “no makeup” looks take more products to pull off than a lot of super dramatic makeup looks do.
So add that, plus how regularly we typically get haircuts, cover our roots, find clothes that fit, get them tailored… yeah. It’s a lot. A LOOOTTTT.
My husband started a lot more personal maintenance after we started dating just because he noticed how much work I was putting in. He was like, “Shit, if you’re gonna do this amount of work to look good for me, the least I can do is get regular haircuts and trim my beard and wear lotion.” He also made an effort to learn about makeup (which I didn’t expect or require) because he finds it fascinating and artistic. That small level of appreciation was, no joke, super sexy.