It’s hard to let go of friends, especially after you’ve been through a lot together. These people realized that their friends actually weren’t good people… and they cut them out of their lives.
They shared their ‘moments of realization’ with us, and we were floored.
This just recently happened. I have a friend whose dog got out of their fenced-in yard and was picked up by the pound. It cost $40 to get him out but they didn’t do it because it’s ‘too expensive’. They’ve had this dog for years and he’s not worth $40 to you? He’s part pit bull so he was euthanized because they didn’t come get him. He was only 4 years old and was a super friendly, happy dog. It really bothers me.
I didn’t know about it until afterwards. If she had told me I would have freaking paid for him to get out! I just don’t get it and I’ve had a hard time even talking her since I found this out. I loved that dog and he did not deserve to die. They KNEW he could get out of the yard yet kept rolling the dice and leaving him out there.
He told our friend that their mom’s death from cancer was karma against them for calling him out on his comment on a public Facebook post. I never spoke to him again.
When my house and business burned, only one friend of mine came around to help out, everyone just disappeared until my insurance check came. Then people started coming around again, but by then I knew who my one true friend really was.
My best friend tried to split me and my wife up because he wanted to sleep with her.
When he told me he really needed some money because he was out of a job at the time, I lent him $40 only to find out that he used that as admission to a vape contest.
When my boss called him to ask him why he hadn’t been to work in a week, and he blamed me. I was in on the conference call at the time.
When I realized he had a very fuzzy definition of “consent” and “age of consent”, I confronted him about it. In the process, I told him that if he so much as looked crosswise at my daughter, there would be consequences. He looked me dead in the eye and said “Bring it”.
Close friend of mine admitted he was really struggling with depression, I gave him a hug and some reassurances. Our other friend told him to stop being a scaredy cat and that depression doesn’t exist. We’d both been friends with him for about 8 years, but after that we haven’t seen him since.
When he in passing casually talked about how he had hit a cyclist with his car and just drove off. After further questioning it was confirmed that it was not soft contact and the cyclist went down hard.
I run gaming tournaments and I helped a guy start up his own league in the next city over. I was an official in his league, helped get the word out and brought food to share each league night. Things were great for a couple seasons.
The league took off and was a huge success. After that, he turned into a horrible person. He started scheduling his league right on top of mine, even though we shared a lot of players because we were located fairly close together. I tried to reason with him and he wouldn’t budge, and took it as me dictating to him when he was “allowed” to run his league nights. Even his own players agreed he was being awful.
So I told him, “It would never even occur to me to schedule an event on top of yours because I respect the time and effort we both put into this. No friend of mine would do that to me. Do what you’re going to do, and I hope the loss of our friendship was worth it.”
I told him about being sexually assaulted by a mutual friend, and his response was to pout and say, “Well, if you’d let
When she was bragging about being so “clever” and “manipulative” by waiting until after a work friend helped her with something to just ghost them. Also, bragging about not getting involved in work drama that she single handedly created (by telling coworkers each others’ secrets and trapping them in lies).
She is bragging about all of this to me, and as she’s talking I’m realizing that I haven’t been unreasonable or crazy in our friendship– this is the exact crap she’s done to me in the past! So much for being clever.
I let her stay at my house when my son was very young (I was a single mom). I told her “no men, no drugs, I have a little kid.” That obviously didn’t work, because I woke up two days later to a scummy looking guy in his underwear going through my refrigerator. And then it was a different guy after that. And a different guy. (Don’t bring people who are strangers to me into my house to scope the place and potentially endanger my kid.) Then the drug use started. “I told you no drugs.” She argued that they weren’t bad. I’m like, not at my house around my kid. Then it was just pain pills. Then it was “I’m at the hospital because I overdosed on drugs”.
When he asked me to grab a coffee with him and then he spent 2 hours berating me because he thought I was trying to steal his girlfriend (another mutual friend) from him. She had been confiding in me about his emotionally manipulative habits and wanted to know my opinion and I was frank with her. After she broke up with him he and his family solely blamed me and after a brief period of harassment he hasn’t spoken or acknowledged me since. Good riddance. But the joke is on him because his ex and I are still very good friends.
When I realized that whenever I wanted to talk to them about something that was troubling me, they acted annoyed and like they don’t have time for it. However, they always expected me to drop everything and prioritize their problems when something was going on in their life.
She told everyone my personal struggles with depression after she told me that I could talk to her without worrying about people finding out. Then made me a villain in the friend group and also stole hundreds of dollars worth of stuff from me and backed out of a lease a week before moving in.
He tried to ride off on his motorcycle after drinking a 12 pack and downing jello shots all night so he could go see his biker buddies. I stopped him, he has a wife and 2 kids and whoever else he could’ve possibly killed would have a family too. He proceeded to try to pick a fight with me, call me every name in the book and then threatened to have his biker buddies come over and teach me a lesson about their “brotherhood”. Kicked him off my property, had his wife pick him up and told him to never come back again. Any man who would threaten a friend like that and risk abandoning his family to go see his motorcycle club brothers is a friend that I don’t want in my life.
I need to leave out a bit of detail because I don’t want to risk anyone figuring out who this is in reference to in case they are actual users of this site.
Last year I got divorced and because of that I started reconnecting with old friends. I went to my friend’s house and we were talking and I asked how his brothers were doing. He informed me that his one brother had started dating a girl I knew from high school (we were absolute best friends, the girl and I, in HS). He said that it was causing a huge rift in the family because she was causing all kinds of problems with him.
Fast forward to just this past week and I reconnect with said girl. As I said, this girl and I were best friends in high school so we quickly picked right up from where we had left off and through our conversations she was telling me about how the guy she was dating, who I was also great friends with, was actually off his rockers and both mentally and physically abusive. Hearing her side of it brought a lot of other stuff I had heard over the years into the light as truth. But what really sealed the deal was her video evidence of him physically assaulting her and talking about how he wanted her to call the cops because he wanted them to kill him.
So yeah, I found out that someone I considered to be a good friend was truly a bad boyfriend with severe mental issues that he refuses to get help for.
He sold our other friend’s car while he was away.
Too much stuff ended up missing, not big stuff, just little things like tools or knickknacks. One day he lost his job, he said it was just a slowdown in business. About a month later I ran into a former co-worker of his. It turns out the place my friend used to work instead of vending machines had some trays of chips and candy snack that worked by the honor system; you put some money in a box and took whatever snack you wanted. Not only did the company give warnings about shortages from the trays but someone saw him taking the money from the payment box. A lot more stuff made sense after that.
We were celebrating her 24th birthday and went to a club, her, me and some people from her work. Before going to the toilet I left her my bag and told her I’d be right back. When I came back the table we had been sitting at was deserted, half the people were at the bar and half on the dance floor. To keep the table they had left… my bag. Wallet and phone was missing. Birthday girl’s comment: “Oops, sorry”.
She made plans with me to an amusement park for a girls day out and when I showed up at her house that morning, I learned she’d left a few hours earlier to go away for the weekend with my boyfriend.
He was about to come back to high school (after going to alternative school). He had come to my house because his and my parents were hanging out. He told me “Don’t worry if I don’t talk to you at school” and then told me I was his ugliest friend on the same day. I’ve been so much happier without him…
When they decided to ghost me because their girlfriend no longer liked me. Girlfriend had been a serial cheater for the better part of 10 years. I helped pick up the pieces every single time. Both had very little regard for humanity, so it’s probably for the best.
She wrote a horrifically homophobic and straight up mean thing on a sticky note and left it for her roommate to find (College dorm roommates, they didn’t get along all year, long story). When I learned her roommate’s side of the story and heard how upset that made her, I brought that up to my “friend” and her response was basically “good, I’m glad I made her feel like a pile of crap”.
I haven’t spoken to her since. I also have a whole new respect for her roommate who she made me believe was a total creep, but who is actually a really cool person.
Best friend in high school stole my diary from my secret hiding place, read it, then gave it back to me wrapped as a birthday present… while adding how pathetic I was.
A former coworker was watching my dog in exchange for using my car for a couple of weeks over Christmas break back in 2008. She was apparently mad that I hadn’t called every day to have her put my dog’s ear up to the phone so that I could talk to it (yes, really). She said nothing of this to me, but instead texted me late on New Year’s Eve with some BS story that my dog had escaped by digging under the fence and that she had no idea where my dog was.
I kept calling her and texting her trying to figure it out, but she went silent until nearly two days later when she just texted to say “never mind, she came back”. I was suspicious and asked her to send me a picture of the hole my dog made, but she refused. Got back to our duty station, got my dog and my keys, stood there while she told me what I terrible dog owner I was, and then never talked to her again.
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