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1. Too much info for the wedding guests
She got super drunk, gave a speech during the ceremony where she was apparently “channeling” my dead mom, whom she had never even met, saying how “proud” my mom was of me. Then later, during the actual reserved time for speeches, she again, uninvited, shared the story of when I met my husband and how I actually wasn’t interested in him because I was trying to have sex with his friend at the time. It’s totally true but did she have to announce it to my entire group of wedding guests!? What a nightmare! We are not friends anymore.
2. The uninvited guest
I get angry just thinking about this. It was my husband’s best friend’s mom, who was not invited, but showed up anyway, and brought a bunch of small children with her (it was explicitly a no-kids, no-exceptions wedding), tried to sit at the same table as me and tried to take pictures of me while I was eating, and loudly criticized one of the caterers because she thought she saw him put a used spoon into a buffet dish (he didn’t). My mom, who is pretty blunt, straight up asked her Who are you and why are you here? I personally addressed all the invitations and I know we didn’t invite you. To which she replied Well my son needed a ride! My mom told her to leave, which was so unbelievably awkward, but she left without making more of a scene.
3. Whoa! easy there, lady!
Not mine but my friend’s brother’s rather religious wedding. Bride’s mother makes a speech and says deadpan “if you hurt her, I will slit your throat”… in her speech… at the wedding where her daughter is marrying the nicest guy… Everyone was so stunned and embarrassed, no one laughed, bride and groom could barely look at her.
4. Her way or the highway
My mother-in-law changed our reception venue behind my back. Luckily, I found out and was able to get it changed back. This was my first introduction to her boundary issues. I have since learned that if she thinks there is even the slightest chance that someone won’t do what she wants, then she feels completely entitled to use whatever means necessary to get her way. I think she legitimately believes that people who won’t do what she wants are purposely being mean to her.
She also passed out dollar store glow necklaces at our reception. She didn’t ask me or anything, of course. It was a complete surprise to see her handing out glow necklaces as wedding favors.
5. Get energized on your wedding day!
He came up to the head table and stated, “You don’t know me do you?” (I didn’t). “I’m [my aunts] husband.” I hadn’t seen my aunt in years and this was her latest husband.
He then proceeded to pull a couple cans of some energy drink out and give my husband and I a sales pitch, asking if we’d invest in the company. Apparently his trunk was full of cases of the stuff.
My photographer got a photo of the cans, thinking we had actually brought them for ourselves. When we told her the story, she was crying with laughter over the whole debacle.
6. Why do you do this, woman!
At my brother’s wedding, his mother-in-law sat her ELEVEN last-minute guests at our guest’s table because she clearly did not care about my family’s guests. We couldn’t add another table because we were at the max tables that would fit in the venue. So I had to ask the reception venue staff to add chairs to our other tables (which overcrowded our other tables and messed up our seating chart), his mother-in-law cuts me off saying “No, you cannot have 13 people to a table. It’s unlucky.”
THEN WHY DID YOU STEAL OUR TABLE???? HUH? What were we supposed to do? Ask our guests to leave?
I completely ignored her, turned to the staff member, and had them add the chairs anyway.
7. This is not the place for it, uncle!
My uncle. He made a scene about how his doctor had misdiagnosed his “mental illness (he doesn’t have one. He’s an attention seeker and claims he has every disease/disorder under the sun) for years, how he was going to sue them, etc. He literally stood up and made a speech about it. We had a very small wedding (only be about 40 guests) so it was completely inappropriate.
8. The attention seeker
Maid of honor.
She missed the ceremony rehearsal the day before because she was too busy trying to get my father-in-law to buy skinny jeans at a Macy’s on the way to the venue. She ended up being 4 hours late. Before the ceremony, she made a scene at the resort spa because she didn’t like her makeup, resulting in the makeup artist leaving in tears. Other people couldn’t get their makeup done because the spa had to pull in another makeup artist with limited time. Then, she wouldn’t stop complaining about her makeup while I was trying to calmly get ready in my room. At the reception, she kept hitting on the men, including the married ones. At the after party in a friend’s suite, she made out with and rubbed the crotch of a guy in front of everyone.
Her constant need to be the center of attention is one of the many reasons we don’t talk that much anymore.
9. Maybe it wouldve been best to un-invite her
She deliberately took forever to get ready and started a fight with her boyfriend (My husband’s best friend and best man) right before the wedding. They showed up late because of the whole thing, which caused our whole wedding ceremony to be 20 minutes late. It is well known that she doesn’t like me, so it was obviously a power play and done on purpose. She then didn’t talk to me once during the entire wedding. It felt very awkward. I have one photo of me on the dance floor and she is in the background giving me the worst stink eye.
10. The grooms strange relatives
My sister’s wedding. The groom’s grandma and female cousins (parents are deceased) wiped their feet on my sister’s dress train during pictures, then stole all the bottles of wine that had the labels customized to read the wedding vows of the groom’s parents, then proceeded to bring back hard liquor, do shots, and grind on the DJ while he was playing bass-booming hip hop that my sister and her husband explicitly said they didn’t want.
11. The envious guest
My sister’s wedding was a bit over the top but beautiful (castle, south of France, need I say more.) She had this group of friends who all put some money in an envelope as a present. One girl, the new girlfriend of one of the boys, said something like ‘I don’t have a lot to give and feel embarrassed to put my participation in front of you’ so she took the envelope in the loo and added her money there, away from ‘judging’ eyes.
Yep, you guessed it, she actually took more than 500 from the envelope. They only found out when one of those friends asked, weeks later, if the newlyweds had enjoyed the 1000 during the honeymoon. The girl’s excuse was that she was planning her own wedding and could just afford a city hall affair and it was soooo unfair my sister had such a great venue.
I’m personally quite immune to ‘princess wedding day’ but stealing money at a wedding is so so wrong. I think the girl ended up as a bit of a cast away. My sister’s marriage didn’t last anyway so I don’t know what happened to her group of friends.
12. The overdramatic mother-in-law
Mother-In-Law left immediately following the ceremony. She loves to be over the top and dramatic. She didn’t even say anything to my wife before doing so. We only found out when it was time to take pictures that she left. Missed all the photos and the reception and never gave her a reason. She hasn’t spoken to her daughter in over two years. Most likely blames everyone else for her problems rather than herself. It blows my mind.
13. This is how friendships end
She skipped my bridal shower and bachelorette party, but found time to go (uninvited) to the strip club with my husband, his friends, and her boyfriend, who was a groomsman. Came to my wedding dressed as a hooker and congratulated me by saying she thought it would be her getting married first. We’re obviously not friends anymore, and these aren’t even the main reasons for that.
14. Which is the worst?
I have three different ones: my mother refused to wear the color that I asked her to wear, which my mother-in-law and all my bridesmaids wore and which matched my table decorations. Instead she wore a sparkly silver sequinned gown which had the express purpose of upstaging the bride (me).
Then my sister-in-law threw a hissy fit because when we went into a small room with the Rabbi for a blessing only the wedding party was allowed to come. It was supposed to be intimate and small, hence the small room. Since sister-in-law couldn’t come she didn’t let her husband who was a groomsman (my husband’s brother) come either and made a big noisy stink about it.
Third, my husband’s cousin somehow got the band to honor her for her birthday with a long speech and a special dance for her and her husband even though it was also my cousins birthday and was also my best friends anniversary and it was my wedding not her birthday party.
Overall my wedding was magnificent.
15. The untrusty uncle
My uncle went around taking photos and getting people’s names and addresses to “send them the photos”.
A month later, he sent out photos, printed on an advertisement for his fly by night “prepaid legal” business, along with hard sell marketing material. So basically, he lied about what he was doing to get people’s contact info for his business. Pretty pissed off about that one.
16. So aliens do exist! heres the journal-entry proof
My sister/bridesmaid frowned through the whole ceremony – like a pronounced frown with the pouty bottom lip, like not subtle at all. Destroyed all the pictures from the ceremony. She then got drunk, dominated every conversation, then when one of my friends tried to change the subject she became irate and later tried to convince me that my best friends don’t really like me and had begged her to go on a group date with them (yup) until “It was embarrassing. Of course, when I didn’t believe this insanity she immediately told me a completely outlandish story about being abducted by aliens and how if I don’t believe her I’m a terrible person because she wrote about it in her journal once, so that means there’s proof.
17. So, so embarrassing!
My husbands childhood friend (this girl that always wanted him but he never liked her) showed up in a dress that was down to her ankles but had a slit on both sides up to her waist. Yeah, her waist. Then she proceeded to freak dance on the dance floor and do all sorts of moves and everyone could see e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g.
18. Come on, put some effort into it!
Best man. Left during pictures to get his girlfriend, forgot my ring in his car (ran to get it right before I walked down the aisle), and made up his speech on the spot after we told him with plenty of time he needed one. I felt so bad for my husband. My sister wrote this amazing speech and then his best man just sounded like a total idiot giving his “speech” after her. I was not amused.
19. There is always a simpler solution
Bridesmaid spent the morning telling my wife it was pouring, the aisle of our out door wedding was a trough of mud, and her gown was surely going to be ruined before she got up the aisle. Bridesmaid Normally-Narcissistic-And-Insufferable went into damage control mode and gave bridesmaid stupid tasks to do to keep her away from the wife while preparations finished.
Turns out the rain cleared out in plenty of time for the lawn to dry, and all we had to do about the middle aisle was move where the seats were set to the opposite side of the oak we were wed under.
20. This family is a buzz kill
We had set up the tables so that we had an even amount on both sides of the dance floor and this one family who RSVPed no, lets my in laws know about 2 weeks before the wedding that “oh we can come now, is that ok?” my inlaws said sure! this made my wife insane, we had to redo the seating for her whole side of the family add a table and re-arrange everything. Well the day comes and they don’t show up, send no gift and never mention it.
21. Some people just cant have a good time without causing a scene
My mother in law showed up late to the reception and we didn’t have a seating plan. More of a ‘were all family now, sit wherever you wish. Now it’s important to note that my partner had no other family there besides his mother, father, sister and grandparents, because the mother doesn’t get along with anybody else. She then came back out side of where we were, waiting to make our arrival and started complaining about how my family took all the seats and demanding that I ask them to move. I was just like no everybody else was here on time you can find a seat wherever. She then proceeded to talk about my husband’s ex girlfriends, complain about how the food wasn’t what she wanted, bad mouthed my husband’s grandmother in the bathroom and how rude my family was for snobbing her and MAKING her sit in the back. My family are the most chilled people out. We’re all German and Irish immigrants and like to drink and party. We make everybody feel welcome and party even if we don’t know them but she chose to not leave the table, even to dance etc.
22. Wherever there is a wedding, shell be there .
I have a big family. So, the wedding invitation list just got reused over and over. Ex-girlfriend kind of insinuated herself into the family when we were dating (going as far as to stick pictures of herself in our photo albums) to the point that, after we broke up, no one removed her from the list – assuming someone else wanted her there. She actually showed up at my wedding in a white dress – not a wedding dress, but still! It was only in conversations afterward did we all realize that no one actually wanted her at the last few weddings she was invited to.
23. The three terrible aunts
My sister’s wedding. Our relatives on my fathers side are not the greatest, just not really respectable people. They are on the poorer side, which isn’t a problem, but their attitude is. They think the world owes them something. My parents both grew up in poorer families, but worked really hard and became pretty successful. Because of this, my sister and I constantly got comments from our cousins that were just straight horrible. Constantly making us feel bad for being better off.
To combat this, kids were not allowed, only aunts and uncles. It bummed us out because one family on my dads side is actually awesome, but the rule stood because of the bad ones. So of course, the worst of all our aunts brings her kids. Her two daughters share her bratty entitlement. It was awful. And now caused a rift with the family we like because their kids “weren’t welcome, but they are.”
Another terrible aunt tried to make the entire event about her. She was pissed that the guests of honor were my parents best friends “and not family.” My grandmother introduced the best friends to everyone and when it got to that aunt, she stuck her nose up, turned around and walked away. The best friends cracked a joke as she walked away, and everyone was laughing at her, which was nice.
Well, I have three terrible aunts, and they basically tried to destroy the evening. Now my family makes themselves busy during holidays. My sister lives in another state, my parents leave a few days before thanksgiving to go to their summer home, and don’t return until after New Years. That leaves me, alone to make excuses why I am not attending their holiday parties.
24. The unapologetic first wife, and a selfish mother
My first marriage didn’t go very well. At the wedding, I had a rented tux on and I asked my new wife not to smear cake on me when we cut the cake because of that. Of course, when the time came, it wasn’t just a cute smear of frosting or something like you’d see at most weddings, oh no…she full on plastered me with cake and and a mess of frosting and food coloring. I don’t know what was worse, being angry and hurt and embarrassed when the whole room was watching or when people were pulling me aside later and apologizing for it when her and her parents were still laughing and making jokes about it a couple of hours later.
I thankfully remarried a great person years later, and we had a small ceremony that was really very nice. Our photographer was taking pictures afterward before we were heading to the reception, and I had been talking to my dad when he started so he just took our picture together first.
My mom, being who she is, was incensed by not being first to get her picture taken when she wanted and proceeded to throw a fit and leave (my parents had been divorced for at least a decade or so prior to this). Maybe a couple of minutes later, we were all lining up and getting family together for pictures, and when I couldn’t find my mom I learned that she’d stormed off and left. On what would otherwise be one of the best days of my life, there’ll always be that storm cloud of pettiness that she left behind because she couldn’t handle putting one of her kids ahead of herself for ten minutes worth of time.