The betrayed people of Reddit share the most heartbreaking stories of how they found out their significant other was cheating on them. Take a look to see the warning signs they saw, the sneaky way they found out, or the accidental reveals. Stories range from secret text messages to secret meet ups and the culprit is always caught. See if these story tellers relationships recovered, and where they stand now.
“I Took A Deep Breath, Then Several More”
“My husband’s mistress told me at the wedding of a mutual friend, so that was nice. I held my cool until we left, I wasn’t giving either of them the satisfaction of seeing me look like the crazy person or ruining someone’s big day.
But, the fact she was not cognizant of proper etiquette is unsurprising. She clearly did not concern herself much about the appropriateness of what was going into her mouth, never mind the timing of what was coming out of it.
She said, ‘Wow, I wish he was MY husband… tell you a secret, he is going to be after he divorces you. He said he is only staying with you for the kid, but we are going to be together’.
He had always talked about her as being his friends’ friend and her being annoying to him.
Yeah. I took one deep breath. Then several more. Then a few more. I said to her in a strangled voice ‘Well, I guess if you both feel that way you are welcome to him. But let me assure you, the bloom will wear off the rose once I am no longer the common enemy and you two will have the satisfaction of knowing that you are with a man who could deceive his family’.
I’m actually pretty proud my brain managed to work to say that. Some conversations you just don’t forget. I have never had my stomach drop so quickly. The thing was, we were not at all unhappy. He seemed happy. I was happy. The kid was happy.
When we left, I made it until we were well out of sight and then turned to him and said ‘So have you decided on the color scheme for your next wedding?’ He went pale.
I’m grateful she told me. I would always rather know the truth and be able to deal with it, than be given lies.”
“My Reaction Was To Laugh Hysterically”
“When I was 14/15 years old, my best friend, Emma, and I were dating two boys who were best friends. Typical, right?
So, one day Emma and I get out of rehearsal and we go to meet up with our boyfriends, who are nowhere to be found. So we look harder, we’re wandering around campus – and we hear low voices behind a ledge. Lo and behold, our precious boyfriends were there… MAKING OUT WITH EACH OTHER. Emma immediately started crying, which caused the boys to pull apart with a suction-y schluuurp. I suppose I wasn’t as in love with my boyfriend as I thought, because my reaction was to laugh hysterically. I had never seen two boys make out before. It wasn’t bad.”
Birthday Party Gone Wrong
“I went to my girlfriend’s 18th birthday party. I wandered around mingling with all her friends and then I realized I hadn’t seen her anywhere in like 45 minutes. I thought nothing of it at first, but then I went downstairs to use the basement bathroom. It was locked. I knocked and I heard a very breathy female voice say, ‘Occupied! Go Away!’ Since I really had to go, I decided to wait.
GF came stumbling out of the bathroom with some guy about ten minutes later, looking all flustered after a quicky.
She made some excuse about how they were ‘just talking’ and he was an old friend. I shrugged, actually wanting to believe her. But when I went in to finally go to the bathroom, and she had forgotten her panties on the bathroom floor.
I handed them to her in front of all her friends upstairs and walked out. ‘Here. You forgot these in the bathroom downstairs.’ It was one of those classic zinger moments when you really burned someone, but at the time, I just felt sick and brokenhearted.”
Find My iPhone Reveals All
“It was the night of her company Christmas party. I had to stay home and babysit our five year old son (Grandma was supposed to, but she fell and was in the hospital with a broken hip.)
I figured my wife would go and then come home early. Turns out, she was planning to stay the night at a hotel so ‘she could drink and not worry about driving.’
I woke up about 3am just knowing something was wrong (never happened before) and checked ‘Find My Phone’ to see where she was.
She was with her boss at his apartment.”
Almost Too Predictable
“Came home from working a double shift and found the toilet seat up. Either my wife didn’t go the bathroom for 20 hours straight or there had been another man in my house.
Suspected it was her friend from work. I also knew that said friend was trying to sell his house, so I called the real estate agent and asked the see his place. Right inside the front door, I recognized one of her jackets hanging in the mud room. Proceeded to the living room and bam…right on the mantel was a picture of my wife and this guy.
We divorced shortly after. She ended up marrying this guy…then cheated on him…and now they are divorced. Didn’t feel bad for him at all.”
“She Was Very, Very Convincing”
“My ex had a work friend, and we had a long distance relationship, and I trusted this girl way too much. She spent a lot of time with him, and I just never questioned it, because she went so far as to make up troubles he was having with the guy he was seeing. She would really go the extra mile to keep her story going, and I bought into it.
For example, I once found an intimate selfie of him on her computer. Her excuse? During our long distance period, she had sent me some rated-r pictures for valentines day. She told me that she had him take them, but demanded collateral from him to make sure that he wouldn’t show anybody. I know, I’m an idiot for believing that. But you have to understand, she was very, very convincing.
Anyhoo, I still didn’t like this guy, because he would get into her head. So I told her I wasn’t keen on them hanging out anymore. Well, long story short, I move out there a year or so later, and we get engaged. I found out a few days after moving 2000 miles that, yes, she had cheated. Frankly, if I hadn’t moved I probably would have cut it off. I figured that it was only because of the long distance that she slipped up, but now things would be better.
Nope. I don’t know what specifically happened, but I do know that she sent the dude a private picture of herself. When I finally told her I was done and moving back home, she lost it and attacked me with a knife. A real catch that one.”
“I had been going through a rough patch with my girlfriend at the time. We both worked at the same large chain grocery store and a lot of co-workers knew we were dating.
One of the girls comes up to me when I’m closing and asks, ‘Are you still dating so-and-so? Because I just saw her in a coffee shop parking lot making out with some guy.’
I trusted this source and the girl was very upset when she found out that we were still dating and she was the one that broke the bad news. Being an evil monster, I began to plan my revenge. So I planned a romantic getaway an hour and a half from home. Go to a nice restaurant and it was actually a good time.
At the end of the meal I excuse myself to use the bathroom, I have a long drive ahead of me. I go up to our waiter and ask him to tell her that I know. Give him a $20 as a tip (she was dead broke because she just paid for school, which I helped her pay). After the bathroom, stuck out of the place got in my car and drove home.
Her friend had to drive up, pay for the meal and drive her home. We haven’t talked since. Her friend told me I went a bit too far.”
Ignored For Days
“Was dating a girl who was a model, and used to fly to different parts of the country for photo shoots (typically LA and NYC). One trip she said that the director of the shoot won’t allow phones on his set and then she ignored me for 4 days. When I asked her about it and confronted her she somehow convinced me I was the crazy one.
Fast forward a month and her and I are back to normal, Christmas rolls around and I get her a really expensive diamond necklace. Fast forward about three months after that and she gives me my birthday gift… A picture album of her (professional pictures) and says, ‘Remember that photo shoot where I couldn’t answer the phone? These are the pictures from that photo shoot! Don’t you feel like a loser?’
For a split second I kind of did feel like a loser, until I looked at a couple of the photos closer and realized that the necklace I bought her was dangling around her neck.
I pointed it out to her and she couldn’t come up with anything, so I left her place. She called me the next day and admitted she was cheating on me in New York that one week, and that was all I needed to never speak to her again.”
“I Got This Funny Feeling So I Called Him”
“One day, my boyfriend came over to propose. He had to work that night (he was a cop) and said that he would be back to pick my mom and I go to have brunch with him and his parents to give them the good news the next day. Then we would pick up my ring.
Later that night, he didn’t call me during his dinner break. I got this funny feeling so I called him.
Some other guy picked up and there was a lot of background noise , like there was a party.
‘Hello?’ ‘Who’s phone is this?’
‘Um, my boyfriend Chad. Who is this?’
‘I just found it on this end table.’
‘Can I speak to Chad, please?’
‘Yo, is there a Chad here?! (Background voices) Yeah, he is upstairs with his girlfriend.’
‘With who?’ I ask.
‘Yeah, I don’t really know him. He’s the tall dark haired guy right? But this is his girlfriend’s place I think. Let me ask my girlfriend (voices). Oh wait, yeah I wasn’t supposed to say anything because Chad has another girlfriend and she’s pregnant. Hh wow, I’m dumb hahaha.’
‘Yeah, I’m not pregnant…’
‘Oh, sorry about the baby. You seem cool though. You should come over.’
‘Yeah I’m gonna pass on that, so bye.’
I sent a text that night with ‘Yeah, spoke to that guy. We have to talk when you get off.’
So after his shift he came over and he said, ‘So you spoke to That Dude. What did he tell you?’
‘So what do we do? You know I love you.’
‘Yeah, should have thought of that before you lied.’
‘It was an accident.’
‘It was an accident when she called you a while back and I spoke to her on the phone and you said she was just your study partner? It was an accident that her friends think she’s your girlfriend? It was an accident when you lied about working last night?’
‘But what about the wedding?’
‘You proposed to me then met up with a girl not even 10 hours later. Why don’t you go marry the pregnant girl.’
‘Oh no, you know about her too?’
‘How many? How many were there Chad?’
‘In three years, you cheated on me seven times?! Who were they?!’ and I start listing names, knowing who the girls were all along.
‘Baby, I’m sorry it was a mistake.’
‘A mistake? You mean seven mistakes.’
‘OK fine, seven mistakes. But do you know what that means? It means I love you because I always come back to you. They tempt me for a while, but you have me forever’
But then I told him we were done without touching him I step forward so he steps backward and finally we’re at the door, and I say goodbye.
He spent the next four months calling, emailing, showing up at my job, but I wasn’t taking him back. I was heartbroken, but mostly mad. “
“I was dating a co-worker. I was a network administrator and she worked in accounts.
Anyway, a few months in to our relationship she went to China for a week to visit a friend. No big deal, but when Skyping her a few days later I just got a really bad vibe. Shook it off.
Few months after that I was moving a suitcase of hers for some reason and it had a couple airline tickets stuffed into it, which fell out. Went to throw them away only to see that they were from her trip, the first was to a city that actually flew to China (ours does not), but actual one to China was the day AFTER she got.. which I found really odd. Her flight was late in the day so she could have flown in that morning and it was strange she’d never mentioned it.
Oh did I mention a guy who’d been trying to get in her pants lived in that city? This did not sit well with me. But at this point there was no definitive reason for me to suspect anything so I kept my mouth shut. Plus, this was a trip she’d planned right as we were starting to become a couple so I wasn’t there for all the planning and I figured it was reasonable that she’d forgotten to mention the stop.
But, I couldn’t shake the feeling that things were off. I’m a pretty perceptive guy and normally not at all the jealous type, so eventually I gave in and I did a very bad thing… I abused my power and stared logging everything she did on her computer, then went through all her emails. You don’t need to tell me how wrong that was, I’m well aware.
As it turns out she’d cheated on me two weeks after we started dating. Then when she’d gone on her trip she’d stayed with and slept with the guy on the way to China, followed by sleeping with the friend she stayed with IN China.
So now I had proof, which I absolutely couldn’t use, because she could very well have gotten me fired for collecting it in the way I did. So I just broke up with her. She insisted on a reason and as I had to work with her I needed to give one. In the end I just said ‘Ask Guy 1 and Guy 2.’ The look on her face was one of complete shock… turned quickly into denial, then demanding to know why I thought any of that. I just told her it didn’t matter, I knew and nothing she said was going to change that. Queue apologies/excuses/the works.
What really hurt the most was just how CONVINCING she was in her denials. If I hadn’t known with absolute certainly I’d have found myself questioning if I was right myself.”
“I Took Matters Into My Own Hands”
“We had been in a long-distance relationship for nearly all of high school, with him in Canada and myself in the US, about 10 hours away. I decided to move to Canada and go to university in his city so that we could finally live near each other.
Literally a month after moving there, he began to get distant and kind of mean on the phone. I logged into his email one evening (he’d given me the password some time ago), and saw all sorts of emails pertaining to his account on PlentyofFish.
Needless to say, I was taken aback, but I thought, ‘Well, maybe he’s just doing it to feed his ego with messages from girls, with no intention of meeting up. There’s no way he would cheat on me right after I moved to another country for him.’
So, I took matters into my own hands, and made a fake PoF account to message him with. He quickly took me up on my offer for us to meet and hook up. I set up a time and place, and then met him there on the street when he inevitably arrived. He didn’t have much to say in his defense, and I was absolutely crushed. I had never felt that kind of emotional pain before, and I didn’t know how to handle it. It was an awful way to start what should have been a fun first year in uni.
Somehow, we ended up staying together after this. He cheated on me again two months later with his personal training client. He broke up with me and got back together with me after banging a few other girls. We got back together after telling me that he got me a ring (he didn’t) and we were going to get married (we weren’t). Eventually he left me for his step-sister, but not before stringing me along for the better part of a year. My biggest regret is that I held on for so long to the idea he would change, and that his empty promises would someday amount to something.”
The Other Woman
“I found out he was cheating shortly after I found out I was pregnant, so honestly he probably could have gotten away with it even longer. At the time I was going through all sorts of weird emotions so I pushed off the weird vibes I was getting as ‘things are weird right now, you’re reading too much into it.’
When I think back on it, I’m not sure what exactly tipped me off. Days before it was confirmed I realized he was suddenly taking phone calls from someone who, when he spoke to them, was apparently so important that he was talking low and chuckling all flirty and he made sure to be on the phone only when I wasn’t in the room. Then she called while we were in the middle of a serious ‘what are we gonna do about this baby’ kinda talk, and seeing her name/picture pop up on his phone set off an alarm in my gut.
But I couldn’t place the feeling. Finally I just straight up asked if he was messing around with the girl, he denied it, turned it on me, and ended the conversation.
Few days later he left his phone in the bathroom and that nagging feeling was still there. So I bit the bullet and checked his phone. There were hundreds of texts to/from her, lots of suggestive stuff and I love you’s.
Turned out I was the other girl, and he had a 3 yr long distance thing going on with this other girl. I was devastated.”
“My ex was in the Navy and we dated for approximately 3 years, 1 of which we lived together.
He had been deployed once during the first couple years of our relationship so we mostly had a long-distance relationship until the last year we were together. After 3 months living together he tells me he is being deployed again. I’m disappointed but that’s his duty, so I tell him I’ll stay in the apartment and he can send me his 1/2 of rent, etc. because he didn’t want to move all of his stuff out and lose the place. He said he was supposed to be gone for ~8 months (February through October) and will be home by the end of October.
Anyway, time passed, we called, skyped, and I sent care packages until the beginning of September when he tells me he won’t be able to contact me until he is heading home. He says it’s for some secret mission or something (I was 19 and very naive). I don’t hear from him again until Halloween night telling me he will be home in 2 days. I plan a party for him, inviting his mom & sister (his mom was born & raised in Haiti, she speaks NO English.)
Anyway, fast forward to party, I’m happy to see him and everyone’s having a good time. Him and his mom are speaking to each other in their native language (French Creole) and I can’t understand what they’re saying. His sister says to him (in English) that he needs to go to his mom’s house to help her clean out her gutters and change her air filter. He says back, ‘Oh it’s okay I did all that in September when I got home.’ I think he forgot he was speaking English. I am stunned and honestly I just left. I wouldn’t talk to him for two days. When I finally picked up the phone he confessed that he had been living with his mom the past 2 months so he could ‘see other people’ without hurting my feelings. I moved out and never talked to him again.”
“There Were So Many Clues That I Overlooked”
“We were in a long distance relationship. He lived in Michigan and I lived in Illinois. He was friends with my best friend and thought that I was ‘cute’ from the pictures he saw of my friend and I on her Instagram account so he started following my Instagram, and we became friends and eventually met up and started dating. I was in Michigan every other week, so the distance wasn’t a problem whatsoever. There were so many clues that I overlooked, and I probably should have realized then how bad of a person he was.
I honestly thought things we going really well between my ex and I. I met his parents, his sister, and his cats. They all invited me to come to their house for New Years Eve (which was two weeks away) and to spend a whole week with their family, and I was so excited to be welcomed by his family. He was being so sweet to me the days leading up to New Years Eve, and actually asked me not to let my best friend know that I was going to be in town for the following week.
Anyways, I got to Michigan about 3 hours before midnight and was so thrilled to spend time with his family. They were all so sweet and welcoming. I definitely was not used to any of that since my family was the complete opposite.
The next day, I saw that he was texting some girl. He told me it was his ex girlfriend and how she was ‘mad because he didn’t invite her to the New Years Eve party.’ I thought it was odd that she was upset about how she wasn’t invited, but didn’t really question it because I trusted him. She literally would not stop texting him throughout the night and I should have realize then that he was such a worthless human.
I ended up feeling guilty and told my best friend that I had been in town for the past two nights. She forgave me and told me she really need to speak to me, so she invited me out to dinner with her other close girl friend. At dinner my best friend’s friend told me that my (now) ex boyfriend had been cheating on me with his ex, so that was a pretty bad moment. I broke up with him when I got back to his house and got my stuff and left. His parents were kind of confused and didn’t say much. That was the last I ever spoke to him.”