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1. Met her online and we chatted for awhile. One night we agreed to meet up after I got off work. The entire day she called me baby, said she loved me, and texted non stop.
If I didn’t answer her texts right away, she would blow up my phone with calls. She knew where I was. Then during the last 2 hours of my shift, she would actually count down. Only 2 hours, an hour 45, hour 30 and so on till the last 20 minutes then it was every minute. Finally, when my shift was over she text me 3 or 4 times if I was on my way. I finally had enough and told her no, I wasn’t and it wasn’t going to happen. Then she starts with the pictures of her crying. I had to ghost her for 2 days before she stopped.
Poor girl didn’t even make it to starting the first date.
Tucker33
2. “The chase” and “playing hard to get”
I blame movies for this one, the man has to jump through bladed hoops of fire over crocodile pits whilst being ignored/rejected at each juncture to only end up with said female anyways.
I cannot comprehend the rational thought behind being “hard to get”.. If you’re not showing interest.. the man will and rightfully move on.
Weep2D2
3. Being late (maybe 10 minutes is ok, but 30, 40 minutes late to our first date? No thanks)
Checking your phone – the only real exception is to quickly Google something that came up in our conversation.
Not asking questions.
inthesandtrap
4. Don’t meet me at your favorite local pub and then spend the entire date talking to your friends and the regulars and ignore me entirely. I didn’t come there to talk to Pete with the wife-beater at the corner of the bar.
Don’t have sex with someone else while I’m in the next room at the party you dragged me to. OK, it’s the first date and we’re far from exclusive at this point, but what the
Come to think of it, don’t take me to a party on the first date.
Don’t intentionally dress like a slob to make sure I like you for you. I’m not superficial and I want to know who you really are, but if you look like a wreck that doesn’t say a lot about you and I don’t like games.
Don’t tell me your grandfather is coming over so I should go, when it’s really one of your friends with benefits.
All of these happened.
beeps-n-boops
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5. Talk about negative things that are not essential for a potential boyfriend to know. I really don’t want to hear how your uncle molested you when you were 8. I get that it was very traumatizing, but don’t drop that bomb on me on the first date.
EnkiW
6. Here’s a quick and painless way to handle the bill. Be willing and able to split the bill, ask if he wants to split it at the end. If he insists on paying just let him, no sense dragging it out.
I only say this because some guys still carry around that heavy stigma that they are meant to provide and pay for everything And even if they dont it’s still the most awkward part of the date… well hopefully.
IceEye
7. I went on a date once with a girl who was very good looking but had absolutely nothing to say, no hobbies or interests or anything. The only time I got her talking was when she found out that I used to work in her desired industry and she wanted my help finding a job.
I was probably punching above my weight in the looks department but no one is ever good looking enough to warrant having nothing to talk about.
angry_BMO
8. Playing stupid. To an excessive level. Being cute or asking more about what I’m into is lovely, but a girl I took to homecoming one year asked me to explain literally every part of football (including the ball). I sat there for a good ten minutes breaking it down further and further and she just kept shrugging with the same blank look of “huh… I don’t get it…” Turns out she was nervous, hadn’t been on a lot of dates before, and took a friend’s advice wayyyyyy too literally. Just relax!!!
flatwoundsounds
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9. The one time I clearly remember this happening wasn’t a total loss. I had been chatting with a woman on tinder and we decided to meet up for drinks. We went to Fado Irish Pub in Buckhead (Atlanta) and it happened to be trivia night. It was just the 2 of us (ok, mostly me, she helped a little) and we (I) wound up coming in 2nd place. She spent the majority of the time on her phone talking to her friends. When the winners were announced, I left cash for the bartender, walked up to the trivia host to collect my winnings, and left.
wambamthankyumam
10. Personal experience: don’t ignore texts enquiring about meeting up again, then out of the blue send a message asking if they’re free several weeks later. That just says you’re not interested unless it’s convenient for you, Joanne. That’s right. I remember your name
Heiditha
11. From my personal experience:
1Discussing the number of kids they would like to have in like a year.
2Mentioning how her dad is rich and would shower her with wealth the moment she gets married (really bad looking girl, showed up in not so clean clothes, oily hair, bad makeup).
3Telling me how she almost died of overdose on heroin like its an achievement. When I hear heroin I kinda think of really bad stds, so its a turn off.
4Talking about how rich her ex is. Im well off, but I really worked hard since I graduated high school and went to college. Hearing the girl comparing what I earned to what her ex’s dad bought him is kind of off putting.
Anonymous
12. Don’t invite someone you’ve been talking to online for a day, over to your house to hang out with friends, then barely talk to him and talk to your friends instead. Then don’t sic your friends on him when he doesn’t want to see you again. Giving someone the number of a guy just to yell at him, not gonna help your chances of a second date.
Cegrus
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13. I totally understand girls play with their hair, and if I had long, luscious hair, I’d probably play with it all the time.. But when you’re on a first date, I’d advise against playing with your hair to the point of wrapping it around your fork while you eat, and pulling out strands and making a pile of stringy hairs next to your napkin. Really takes you from “that cute girl who worked at the movie theatre who I asked out, totally stoked you said yes!!” To “I wish you were bald.”
C4Play00
14. It’s a pretty big no-no if it seems like a one sided conversation. I want to know about you and your hobbies, if it feels like I’m forcing you into 3 or 4 word sentences, it’s a pretty clear indicator that you’re not comfortable and I’ll be trying to end this date as soon as possible.
Mix_Master_Floppy
15. Went out on a college date with a girl, we both got kinda drunk and started making out. Just as I think I might get to take my pants off, she stops and says she has to tell me something first…”you’re not going to have sex with me because I’m fat” (she wasn’t) at some point but it was pretty much over by then anyway).
Anonymous
16. I cannot stand it when they say “Do you mind if I bring my friend along?” Yes, I mind. I am trying to get to know YOU, not your friend. If you’re into threesomes or something like that, it should be discusses in the “getting to know you” stage.
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17. I was on a first date with a girl and everything was going great. We had a nice dinner and the conversation was great. After dinner, she asked if we could head to the bar where I had met her the week before. I said sure, no problem.
We get to the bar, order a couple of drinks, and we’re having a pretty good time. She points out that the guy she dated for a few months, let’s call him Chad, was there. That’s kind of awkward to bring up, but whatever. I kind of know Chad since he’s a regular at the bar and we have some mutual friends. I didn’t know he and my date used to go out.
Chad sees that I’m with her and [cut] soon leaves the bar. A few minutes later, my date starts checking her phone and texting someone. I go order another round of drinks. When I get back, my date asks if it would be ok if she went back to Chad’s house. I told her she could do whatever she wanted to. I then said goodnight and went home alone. She texted me an hour later apologizing and said that Chad wouldn’t let her in. She then asked if she could come to my house. I politely declined and went to sleep.
So, I would say trying to hook up with your ex is a huge no-no for a girl to do on the first date.
TheNewGuyAgain
18. She cut me off when the waiter came over & ordered my drink and meal in the name of “gender equality”. I mean, I guess she equally as much as an arsehole. I just put the poor execution down to nerves and gave the benefit of the doubt.
Then she later got very aggressive while we were discussing our cars. She mentioned that she was just about to spend 150 getting her head gasket replaced. I mentioned that 150 wasn’t close to enough to have it done properly & that it would likely fail again, & recommended my mechanic. She blew off the handle calling me a misogynistic pig and that she didn’t need it mansplained to her. (It failed again 2 weeks later & was beyond the point of being worth fixing).
Needless to say, did not want a second date.
blackslotgames
19. They don’t laugh. Maybe it’s just me, but I feel like guys respond really well to a girl that can laugh. I don’t know. For me laughter is a huge plus. If a girl can’t laugh at a joke that should at least elicit an online form of “lol” then that’s boring.
Laughter is huge for me, if a girl can deal with her daily life and find some way to laugh at something, that’s a huge plus for me.
kingshinjin
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20. Last week I went on a tinder date and this girl threw the handbook on ‘things not to do’ at me.
1.talked about multiple exes(sugar daddies, one who had the same name as me, and flings with random foreigners)
2.talking about how your old friends were terrible and its hard to make/keep new friends. I understand thats a thing that happens to people but by bringing it up, it seems like youre trying to guilt trip me and I’m now wondering why no ones seems to want to stay around you.
3.asking to be brought to a place you frequent often, then ignoring your date for extended periods of time to talk to the employees you speak to daily. A hello and an exchange of how are you’s would suffice. I shouldnt be sitting alone for 10 minutes while you chat at the register about last weeks gossip.
terribleatgambling
21. I ended up having my first and only date with a girl who was vegan not too long ago. Not that being vegan is a problem, but it’s helpful for the story.
To start, the conversation was miserable and interacting with her was totally awkward. Can’t stand going out to dinner with someone who expects me to carry the conversation, but that wasn’t even the worst part.
What really sealed the deal was when the waitress brought our drinks. Both were waters with lemon. She asked if I ever eat my lemon, and while I thought it was a little strange, I said that I didn’t, and just chalked it up as a vegan habit. She then proceeds to eat the lemon from her water, rind and all. I was a little disturbed by this, but again, this itself wouldn’t have been a nail in the coffin. However, things were about to get so much worse. She then asked if I was going to eat mine, and I once again declined.
She reaches over, grabs my straw and tries to fish the lemon out of my water. I kept my best poker face but soon lost it when she couldn’t get the lemon out with my straw, and instead stuck her hand in my drink to grab the lemon and eat it. Needless to say I was very dehydrated for the rest of my meal while she awkwardly stared at me eating a burger with painfully little conversation.
Ladies, if we’ve been together for several months and you’re trying to mess with me, that’s one thing. On your first date though, don’t touch anything I’m about to ingest. It’s disgusting.
Poet_Knight
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